FLOW GAME SESSIONS FOR COUPLES
Since 2018, I started offering the Flow Game for couples too. Love has always been a fascinating mystery to me, and I'm also curious about how love and creation work together. What allows a couple to be creative and healthy as a team? What gets in the way? How can dialogue flow so that both people feel seen and understood? What if we could take time to really think through big life decisions, together, in an intentional container?
I usually work with couples who are going through some big transition or reflection moment, and need time to think deeper about how they want to respond to a situation, what they want to build together, and how they want to move forward. Deciding if you want to have a baby or not, adopt a pet, move to another country, live together, live separately, start a project together or even uncouple - these are all moments who deserve a lot of attention and listening.
Working on the quality of the relationship is also a possibility, yet the Flow Game is not equivalent to couple's therapy, and works best if there is a specific focus and intention.
As a consequence of working together in a shared question you both have (or on separate questions each one of you have), the quality of the relationship is inevitably impacted, because you get to see your partner with a renewed curiosity, address issues in a respective and constructive way, and strengthen what already works well in the relationship.
Examples of questions that couples have brought to a session before:
- "How can we prepare to receive for our first child?"
- "How can we create a healthier relationship with money?"
- "How can we make our everyday life more peaceful?"
- "How do we build our shared life, founded on safety and comfort, pleasure and choice?"
Witnessing a couple's dialogue unfolding is a delicate process, so I've established some prerequisites to work with me.
Conditions for a Flow Game session for a couple
- There is a desire from both in the relationship to look at each other with openness, honesty and kindness.
- The couple is able to come up with a common inquiry question OR each person is able to come up with a personal inquiry question for themselves. I will only offer a Flow Game session if I feel that I can hold the space for the question(s) in the center, and have the capacity to have compassion for all individuals. You will need to share your intention before.
- The couple knows that opening a space for a deeper conversation might not necessarily solve any issue or answer any question, just open more space for connection and awareness.
- Depending on the case, I might need to interview each person separately before a joined session, to understand the different perspectives.
- Confidentiality.
Prices
- 230 Euro for one unique session (2 hours long).
- 170 Euro per session (1,5 hour long) if you are booking 1 session per month, for 2 or more months. In this case we will be working with the same questions or different questions for a longer period of time, which allows for a deeper process.
- Individual interviews, if needed: 70 Euro each (1 hour long).
What wants to be seen, held or transformed in your relationship? Where do you need support?
If you have any questions or wish to book a session, reach out to start the conversation.
Testimonials
“Amanda has offered a couple's Flow Game to my partner and me just before our 10-year anniversary. We used it to explore our individual and shared vision and wishes for how to move on in the future, building on what has nurtured us in the past. Surprisingly, we came to focus on the role of leadership and followership in our relationship - a theme the Flow Game supports by the kind of questions it asks. This focus, along with Amanda's gentle way of challenging some of our engrained relational patterns and narratives, helped us gain new perspectives on ourselves, each other, and the third which is the relationship itself. She also provided a harvest of the session via email. This harvest was definitely a very helpful bit of the process. We can go back to it now, reread it and continue the conversation. I also liked the way she guided the dialogue, using the Flow Game's mechanics to gently bring equal share of time and focus to both partners. (...) I am still amazed about the level of insight the game facilitated. It really works.”
- B
"As always, I love the Flow Game — I find it incredibly powerful in how it helps me reflect on my own question while revealing new perspectives within myself. I’ll always be grateful to Amanda for introducing me to it, and for her gentle, skillful guidance throughout the process. What stayed with me most from the session with my partner was how, in the end, both our individual and shared questions led us to the same insights. It helped us see each other with more distance, respecting our own individual autonomy and limitations, at the same time that it invited us to really be helpful to each other. The session also revealed things that were forgotten in our relationship. We still have a lot of work to do to improve our communication (which is a shared project), and the Flow Game definitely nudged us towards that direction."
- M