DIALOGUES AT HOME
FLOW GAME SESSIONS FOR COUPLES
Since 2018, I started offering the Flow Game to couples too, and playing inside my own intimate relationships. Love has always been a fascinating mystery to me, and now I'm curious how love and creation work together. What allows a couple to be creative and healthy as a team? What gets in the way?
Witnessing a couple's dialogue unfolding is a delicate process, so I've established some prerequisites to work with me.
Prerequisites for a Flow Game session
- There is a desire from both in the relationship to look at each other with love, honesty and kindness.
- The couple is able to come up with a common inquiry question OR each person is able to come up with a personal inquiry question for themselves.*
- The couple is open to doing one session as a starting point, and knows that opening a space for a deeper conversation might not necessarily solve any issue or answer any question, just open more space for reflection and awareness.
- I will only offer a Flow Game session if I feel that I can hold the space for the question(s) in the center, and have the capacity to have compassion for all individuals.
- I might need to interview each person separately before the session, to understand the different perspectives.
- Confidentiality.
*Examples of questions that couples have brought to a session before:
- "How can we prepare to receive for our first child?"
- "How can we create a healthier relationship with money?"
- "How can we make our everyday life more peaceful?"
- "How do we build our shared life, founded on safety and comfort, pleasure and choice?"
If you are interested, reach out to start the conversation.
A few testimonials
“Amanda has offered a couple's Flow Game to my partner and me just before our 10-year anniversary. We used it to explore our individual and shared vision and wishes for how to move on in the future, building on what has nurtured us in the past. Surprisingly, we came to focus on the role of leadership and followership in our relationship - a theme the Flow Game supports by the kind of questions it asks. This focus, along with Amanda's gentle way of challenging some of our engrained relational patterns and narratives, helped us gain new perspectives on ourselves, each other, and the third which is the relationship itself. She also provided a harvest of the session via email. This harvest was definitely a very helpful bit of the process. We can go back to it now, reread it and continue the conversation. I also liked the way she guided the dialogue, using the Flow Game's mechanics to gently bring equal share of time and focus to both partners. (...) I am still amazed about the level of insight the game facilitated. It really works.”
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